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With my first miscarriage I had someone recommend finding songs that helped understand some of the emotions and feelings I was going through. She gave me a few songs she recommended. The first time I listened to the songs she gave me I cried. I listened to these songs over and over again because it was a way for my feelings to be put into words. Thoughts I didn't quite understand yet were already laid out in a song. A lot of times I would try to bottle up my feelings and pretend like they weren't there. Listening to music allowed me to release some of those bottled up emotions.
Studies have shown that music can be very therapeutic and can be used in many different settings as a form of therapy. I myself have seen music used therapeutically in my previous jobs. When I was a paraprofessional for children with special needs I had several children who music helped them work through "big feelings." When I was a hospice aide and worked within an assisted living setting many times residents who were dying would utilize music for palliative (comfort) cares.
I want to share a short list of songs that I've personally used during my miscarriages in hope that they may offer you comfort and clarity. If music speaks to you I highly encourage you to find some of your own songs as well and create a playlist for working through and processing your thoughts and feelings. This is just a short list to help jumpstart your playlist.
1. Maybe It’s Ok by We are Messengers
“Maybe it’s okay if I’m not okay ‘cause the One who holds the world is holding onto me”
2. Honest by Influence Music & Melody Noel
“How can I trust someone who says they’re good when it doesn’t turn out the way that I think it should?”
3.Winter Bear by Coby Grant
“I held you, my beautiful child and I’ll keep your heart in mine”
4. Gone Too Soon by Daughtry
“Who would you be? What Would you look like when you looked at me for the very first time?”
5. Thy Will by Hillary Scott & The Scott Family
“I may never understand that my broken heart is a part of your plan. When I try to pray all I’ve got is hurt and these four words: Thy will be done.”
6. I’ll Carry You by Tommee Profitt & Stephen Stanley
“Did you feel it in your bones like life slipped right through your hands? I won’t let you down, I’ll carry you.”
7. Brighter Days by Blessing Offor
“I swear that love will find you in your pain
8. Trust in You by Laura Daigle
“When You don't move the mountains I'm needing You to move, When You don't part the waters, I wish I could walk through, When You don't give the answers as I cry out to You I will trust in You”
9. Even If by MercyMe
“I know You're able and I know You can save through the fire with Your mighty hand. But even if You don't, my hope is You alone”
10. Heaven Someday (Song for our baby) by Shelly E Johnson
“Hallelujah I am sure of this, I'll hold you in Heaven someday”
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